Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

You’re exhausted from the cyclical arguments and/or disconnect in your relationship and can’t quite find a way out of it. In fact, some of your best efforts may even seem to be making things worse. Maybe you’re feeling unheard, unimportant, or invisible. Maybe it feels like no matter how you try, you’re never good enough for your partner. Relationships are like mirrors: they tend to not-so-gently show us our deepest hurts, fears, and longings as they relate to both past and present experiences. I believe there is no space more powerful for both joint and individual work than engaging in therapy together.

I have experience working with couples of varying races, ages, abilities, and sexual and gender identities. I welcome and celebrate all couples and enjoy supporting couples in exploring the role culture may play in their relationship.

I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an evidence-based model for repairing wounds within your relationship and building secure attachment. This approach is very experiential; I invite you to come as you are, and will help to interrupt, understand, and reorganize your pattern of conflict. I enjoy helping couples to first slow down, giving us an opportunity to see what really happens for you emotionally, cognitively, and physiologically in moments of tension or hurt. This is the fuel that makes your fire so hard to extinguish. Here we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and partners, clarify the stories we believe about ourselves and others, notice what role we play in conflict, learn how to meet each others needs, and cultivate a sense of connection and belonging. 

I know that when your relationship is struggling, it can spill into other areas of your life and feel like nothing is going well. If you are struggling with disconnect, conflict and/or intimacy, you don’t have to wait until couples therapy becomes a last resort! You deserve to enjoy connection, safety, and a sense of belonging in your relationship. I invite you and your partner to reach out and see if we might be a good fit.